Health and Wellness

Centres of Influence

Centres of Influence

Digitizing a thought I had written in a journal back in 2010 around the idea of a Centre of Influence (COI). I had defined COIs as those people we have relationships with who possess a level of influence over our decision-making. The influence is exerted by virtue of their primary relationship dynamic with their network. These are people trusted & networked as an influencer, and their advice is often taken with little further thought.

It's apparent that my then knowledge of personal/professional relationship dynamics was much more limited than it is today, but interesting nonetheless...

Perspective on the "Friendzone"

Perspective on the "Friendzone"

This is a re-post for an answer by Franklin Veaux to a question on the site, Quora. I'm sharing this because it provides a perspective that people often do not consider. Food for thought.

Original Question: "Why does a girl I like keep sending me random texts even after she friendzoned me?"

Franklin's Response: "Because she's treating you like a friend. Friends talk to each other…

Thoughts on Self Esteem

Thoughts on Self Esteem

Self-esteem is derived from the self. Duh...

Self-esteem is not something that should be outsourced to others.

  1. People have enough trouble dealing with their own self-esteem issues, their own drama, their own everything... heaping yours on top is too much to deal with.

  2. Blaming is a manifestation of this: you are outsourcing to a boss, the economy, a relationship, past work.

  3. Understand that everything can be thought of independently. This wisdom helps one get crystal clear about the self.

The Ten Pāramī

The Ten Pāramī

I first learned of these while attending Vipassana (10-day silent meditation course). Towards the end of the sit, students are taught about the Ten Pāramī (Wikipedia), the universal characteristics to nurture in order for one to attain 'perfection' or 'completeness.' 

These are the same characteristics which have been touted throughout the ages in popular literature as what we should aspire to. The specific meaning has evolved a little as the times have changed, but our human condition has remained relatively constant so they are still highly relevant.

On Actions and Words

On Actions and Words

This will be a very short post, and it's mostly my thinking around a puzzle-me-this notion. 

I've recently encountered a number of situations where people acted highly irrationally. In some cases, their behaviour was very clearly against their own self-interest. The behaviour, if continued, would negatively impact their lives in a significant way. And the thing is, most of the time they know this is the case and can't take the steps to remedy their situation. 

To what extent does an individual's surroundings influence their judgment? How long is enough for a person to wallow in their misery? How can an external party impact the person who's struggling? What is getting in the way of the individual taking steps to make a change?

The Charity Fund

The Charity Fund
Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.

- Princess Diana
 

The above quote by Princess Diana beautifully captures a core facet of how I live life. In this post, I will share with you a personal practice I've named the "Charity Fund," which is an important part of my philanthropic pursuit.